You spot an eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” 


But if you could read her mind, you would see clouds of thoughts and it might amaze you that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?... Why don’t guys find me attractive? ...I don’t like my ankles.”


We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wow, what else can he ask for?”  He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself “I hate my big ears…why have I so few friends.”
Some people never tires of talking. And in most conversations, it is only them who seems to be interested in the things they have to say. 


An important key to self improvement is to talk to a trusted friend. Find someone who you trust. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, do I bore you when we are together, do my breath smell?” and so on..


Your friend’s answers may surprise you and he or she will know that you are interested in improving yourself. In return you may help your friend with positive criticism. This is a win-win situation.

​Remember, you cannot give what you do not have. Be a product of self improvement first before you can tell other people how to improve themselves. 


The first step to true self improvement is to accepting yourself. Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer... if only I was thinner” and so on. 
Being yourself is observing you, finding out how to express yourself and be pleased with who you are. 


For a few individuals, it's finding out how to love yourself, for other people, it's not shrouding who you are or altering things about you to fit in. 


You can't be yourself if you don't understand, know, and live with yourself first. It ought to be your basic goal to discover this. Attempt to take time for yourself and chew over your life and selections. 


Work at accepting errors and selections you've arrived at; they're complete and in the past, so there's no use howling over spilled milk. Quit caring about how individuals perceive you. 


It truly doesn't matter. It's unimaginable to be yourself when you're caught up in questioning "Do they think I'm comical? Does she think I'm plump? Do they believe I'm unintelligent?" 


To be yourself, you've got to release these concerns and just let your conduct flow, with only your thoughtfulness of other people as a filter — not their consideration of you. 
        

Self-improvement and self love is the virtue of acceptance and contentment. Happiness will follow where self improvement has taken place.
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​Everything that happens to us happens in purpose. 
Sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of  staying in a cage of fear and crying over past failures and experiences, rather treat them as teachers and they may just become your tools in both self-improvement and success.

​Did you watch the film Patch Adams? Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who did not make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy and depression, he decided to voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward, seeking for medical attention. As he stayed in hospital for many months, he met different people.

He met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. He found ways of treating his own problems and he realized that he needs to get back on track, that he still want to become a doctor. The positive attitude he carried himself with brought him self improvement and great success. 


Did he succeed? He became the best doctor his country has ever known.

Take these tips:
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•    Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?

•    When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self- improvement, not self pitying.

•    When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.

•    The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. There’s always a next time. Make rooms for self-improvement.

•    Take things one at a time. There is no overnight pill. Self improvement takes time but eventually leads to success. Just take one day at a time.

•    Set meaningful and achievable goals. It hopes and aims to result to an improved and better YOU.

•    Little things mean BIG to other people. Just greeting someone with a pat on the back can mean so much to someone else.
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•    Remember there’s no such thing as ‘over night success

Better Yourself Master Your Life
Are you living the life you really want? Make your life one you actually want to live by learning how look inside yourself and not to the outside world for answers.
The detailed and flexible worksheets in this helpful guide will help you break out of your rut and learn the path to a better you through self-reflection and analysis. Now available on AMAZON.

Proper goal setting makes you the master of your own future. Tomorrow is directly affected by the actions you take today. And guess what? You did what you did today because of the goals you have set. 


If you set specified goals, you will determine where you should focus your efforts. It will also weed out the distractions that can hinder your progress. 


Unrealistic weight-loss goals are a bad idea as they will undermine your efforts. 


There are two types of goals for weight loss. 


The first goal focus on the desired outcome you want to achieve. This goal gives you a target but does not address how you will achieve it. 


The second goal is a process goal which focus on the steps to take to achieve the desired outcome. 
For example, a process goal may be to walk 30 minutes each day and to drink water with every meal. -process goals are very helpful for weight loss as you focus on changing habits necessary for weight loss. 


Set SMART goals
Both your process and target goals should be according to these criteria:
•    Specific
•    Measurable
•    Attainable
•    Relevant
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Long-term and short-term goals
To make your overall goal more manageable you should set long-term goals which is then divided into many smaller weekly and daily goals - like bite-sized pieces.
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Keep track
Keep track of your weight loss goals. There are many tracking tools available online or you may visit the app store for a goal tracking app.
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Set realistic goals within a reasonable time frame
We have good intentions but within three days we bury them in a bowl of ice cream. Setting realistic goals means to take real stock of what you can do within a said time.
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Adjust your goals as needed
As you make progress in your weight loss plan, you will sometimes have to change your goals. That is ok an allow for that.
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Allow for setbacks
Every successful person has experienced setbacks. That is a normal part of life and a normal part of behavioural change. 
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Stay open minded
To be open-minded means to be flexible, an important key to successful change. Remember that we cannot learn new habits overnight and that it will take time.

“Success is the sum of small efforts—repeated day-in and day-out.”  —Robert Collier

Fall journaling stickers - a great way to get into the mood!

​Your experiences are shaped by your thinking. Even obstacles have a value when you can see it. You can develop convictions that will help you to feel happier and achieve more, regardless of the situation.

​How to take charge over your life - 16 Empowering Beliefs to Live By Today
 
Your experiences are shaped by your thinking. Even obstacles have a value when you can see it. You can develop convictions that will help you to feel happier and achieve more, regardless of the situation.

Consider these empowering beliefs that you can start using today to transform your life through the power of positive thinking.

​Empowering Beliefs to Make You Smile

• I understand my potential. You can achieve amazing results when you put your mind to it. Feel excited about reaching your true potential.

 

• I count my blessings. List each thing that you have to be grateful for. Remember to include the smaller items, like warm socks or tart cranberries. Expressing your appreciation reminds you of how rich you are.

 

• I learn from mistakes. You can make setbacks work for you by focusing on the lessons that they contain. Flubbing one job interview can teach you how to ace the next one.

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• I find meaning in adversity. Tough times can be the most rewarding phase of your life. Know that you can emerge from any challenge with greater wisdom and courage. Look back at the obstacles you’ve already overcome, and reassure yourself that you can handle what’s ahead. The 30 day journal and book linked below might be of great help if you would like to know how meaning can be found in adversity.  

Take Charge Of Your Life: Turning Obstacles Into Opportunities - A Quick Guide
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Take Charge Of Your Life: Turning Obstacles Into Opportunities - Journal with life changing affirmations

• I embrace change. Accept that life is a series of changes. Focus on the present moment, and prepare yourself to adapt to whatever circumstances come your way.

• I dream big.Expand your wish list. Setting demanding but attainable goals gives you adventures to look forward to each day.

 

• I practice forgiveness. Lighten your load by clearing away any resentment you’re holding onto from the past. Set reasonable boundaries while you respond with compassion when others disappoint you. Pardon yourself too.
  
  
• I give generously. Sharing your blessings makes you more powerful and joyful. Volunteer in your community and speak kindly to each person you meet today. Buy coffee for your co-workers or give your receptionist a flower. Also read: how an attitude of gratitude will improve your mental health
  

Empowering Beliefs to Make You Strive

• I take responsibility. You are in charge of your life. Hold yourself accountable for the outcomes you create.Celebrate the fact that you have the power to determine your own future.

 

• I apply effort. Figure out your definition of success so you know what is worth working for. Give yourself credit when you’re making progress rather than comparing yourself to others.
  
  
• I leverage my strengths. You have your own individual strengths that you can draw on. Figure out what you’re good at and what you want to do. Let that knowledge guide your choices.
  
  
• I listen to feedback. Ask for feedback so you can enhance your performance and show others that you respect their point of view. You grow faster when you gather solid input that you can translate into action.
  
  
• I ask for help. Expand your capabilities by building a sturdy support network. Carpool with other parents. Divide up household chores with your spouse and children.
  
  
• I connect with others. Moral support counts too. Surround yourself with loving and encouraging family and friends.Participate actively in your faith community. Join a club with members who share your interest in solar power or badminton.
  
  
• I recognize opportunities. Stay alert for promising openings. You may meet a new friend while you’re standing in line to buy your morning coffee. FOUR remarkable ways in 
  
  
• I try new things. Be open to experimentation. Go kayaking one weekend instead of playing tennis. Bake your own bread or knit a scarf. You may discover hidden talents.

​An upbeat attitude increases your happiness and productivity. Question your old assumptions so you can replace them with a new sense of certainty about yourself and your future. Adopt empowering beliefs that build up your confidence and prepare you for greater success. Start today. You’ll be glad you did!