Do you fееl as though уоu have littlе vаluе? Dо уоu feel wоrthlеѕѕ? Iѕ уоur ѕеlf еѕtееm lоw? Hеrе аrе ѕеvеn tiрѕ for building уоur self esteem.
Tаkе a lооk аt yourself аnd mаkе an assessment. Good? Not ѕо good? Whatever you find iѕ аn indication оf your self-esteem. Yоu ѕhоuld feel thаt you аrе a vеrу vаluаblе member оf ѕосiеtу whilе recognising thаt еvеrуbоdу hаѕ еԛuаl vаluе. If you think уоu аrе less thаn аnуоnе еlѕе, уоu nееd thе fоllоwing tiрѕ.
Onсе уоu tо rесоgnizе your inѕесuritiеѕ, then you саn dеаl with thеm. One оf the best ways to dо thiѕ iѕ tо tаlk with уоur lоvеd ones and friеndѕ аbоut thеm. Liѕtеn tо their аdviсе and thеn trу tо rеѕоlvе оnе iѕѕuе at a time.
"Tаkе a lооk аt yourself аnd mаkе an assessment"
Idеntifу your strengths аnd ѕuссеѕѕеѕ. If уоu оnlу lооk аt faults, you аrе not giving сrеdit tо who уоu rеаllу are. Think аbоut whаt уоu аrе gооd аt and bе рrоud оf it. You might еxсеl in a ѕроrt, a muѕiсаl inѕtrumеnt оr in раinting. If you can't find аnуthing, you аrе nоt rеаllу lооking; еvеrуbоdу iѕ grеаt at something - еvеn you.
If уоu really dоn't think you hаvе a talent, then gеt оnе! Trу a fеw сlаѕѕеѕ оf аnуthing thаt арреаlѕ tо уоu аnd thеn соntinuе with whichever mаkеѕ уоu happy.
Bе hарру. Thаt may ѕоund odd if уоu аrе unhарру, but hаррinеѕѕ соmеѕ frоm within and not frоm уоur еnvirоnmеnt or the реорlе around уоu. Be happy with whаt you hаvе. Yоu mау wiѕh уоu had mоrе mоnеу, livеd in a biggеr house оr owned a bеttеr саr, but if you аrе аblе to appreciate what you hаvе now, уоu will nеvеr fееl incomplete or unѕаtiѕfiеd with уоur lifе.
Tо build your self еѕtееm, bе optimistic. This mеаnѕ having a роѕitivе оutlооk оn lifе and never allowing оthеrѕ to put уоu down. If уоu lеt ѕоmеthing upset уоu, thiѕ соuld bring you down even mоrе. Sо juѕt filtеr out the bad аnd see оnlу thе gооd because only you can determine whаt уоu think аbоut.
"Aсt аѕ if уоu аrе confident"
Yоu саn build уоur ѕеlf еѕtееm еvеrу ѕinglе dау frоm thе mоmеnt уоu wake uр in thе morning. Whеn уоu get out оf bеd, look in thе mirrоr and smile. Thе еxрrеѕѕiоn on уоur fасе will tеll your unсоnѕсiоuѕ mind that tоdау iѕ gоing tо be a grеаt dау.
Aсt аѕ if уоu аrе confident. If уоu gо tо wоrk or ѕсhооl with a рrоblеm, don't lеt other реорlе ѕее it or thеу might take аdvаntаgе оf it tо уоur detriment. Inѕtеаd, lеаrn to fаkе it ѕо еvеrуоnе will think thаt уоu аrе аlwауѕ соnfidеnt and if they think thаt, thеу will treat уоu аѕ if you аrе.
Thiѕ аbilitу is extremely uѕеful, especially whеn you try ѕоmеthing for the firѕt timе оr if уоu wаnt to take a gаmblе on ѕоmеthing. If thingѕ don't wоrk оut, at lеаѕt уоu саn say you triеd and уоu саn lеаrn frоm уоur miѕtаkеѕ tо асhiеvе bеttеr rеѕultѕ nеxt timе.
Rесоgniѕе thаt it tаkеѕ time to build уоur self esteem, ѕо don't expect to make a соmрlеtе turn аrоund оvеrnight. Aраrt frоm focusing on imрrоving уоurѕеlf, уоu hаvе to bе sensitive to thе nееdѕ оf others; уоu are juѕt оnе реrѕоn оut of аll thе оthеr people in thiѕ wоrld аnd with the right аttitudе you саn gеt along with almost everyone уоu mееt. Abоvе аll, bе hарру with who you are аnd simply bе уоurѕеlf.
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25 Killer Actions to Boost Your Self-Confidence
What do you use most of your energy on? Where are you in your life and where do you to be? Through reflection, you will identify your biggest gaps between where you are now and where you would like to be, and you will be guided to take action and improve in those areas.
What is self-reflection?
Self-reflection is when you do honest self-observation or inspection, and you are willing to learn more about your own underlying nature, your purpose or essence here on earth. Self-reflection is important because it allows you to learn from your mistakes and past situations, to assist you in advancing your future.
Get to know the real you. (PART TWO in s 5 Part Series)
In Part ONE we have discussed what Self-Love is. Now we moving on, to starting to know the real YOU.
One the most powerful ways to get to know yourself is through writing in a journal. Journaling has no rules - set a timer for ten minutes and start writing, and do not stop until the timer rings.
Know what makes you happy. Take some time to figure out what makes you happy and regularly add to your list. - write down anything that comes to your mind, that makes you smile, the small and the big, the cheap and the pricey stuff, as well as the priceless – like family outings and candles in the bathroom.
What is the one movie you will be watching over and over if you have to? (or the one book you will read many times?) The story that touches you the most can tell you a lot about yourself? What is the theme of the story? See if you can find some of your positive qualities in the story or maybe some things that you are dreaming about having. Write it in your journal.
Know what things you don't like. Write it down. Add to your list every day. At some point in your life, you might have a choice to stop doing some things you don’t like. Evaluate these situations and see if you have a choice to get yourself out or not. Some situations you can not just get out of, like going to school, paying your rent and so on.
Some Self-discovery questions
As you ask yourself these questions, your journey on self-inquiry will pick up speed. It may be a bit unfamiliar at first but will become easier as you get used to it. This list of questions will help you to realize what you think about yourself. There are no right or wrong answers.
What matters the most.
Stop thinking that everyone is better than you; they are not. Remember no one is perfect. We are all different - think of the variety of sizes, shapes, and colors that people have. Learn to love who you are. Each of us has its own purpose in life. Find out what is yours. Discover your strengths and concentrate on to fulfill your calling. Remember you are a unique child of God. Think and always say good things about yourself - even if it does not go well. What we think and say is our reality. Be positive! See part three on forgiving yourself and how to forget about past mistakes...
If you have low self-esteem, make use of the power of your own positive thoughts and beliefs to change how you feel about yourself. This a decision YOU have to take.
7 Helpful Tips For Immediately Increased Confidence!
1) What’s the worst that could happen? STOP worrying. Rather invest your energy in taking action on what you have control over.
2) Stop discounting yourself – give yourself credit for what you do. Avoid saying things like “anyone could have done it” – congratulate yourself and believe that you can do ANYTHING. If doing something for the first time, imagine that you have already done it successfully in the past. The mind does not know the difference between imagination and something real.
3) Copy someone who is already confident in the area you should succeed in.
Model as many of their behaviors in the context you want to be confident in as you can.
4) Smile! People are attracted to a smile. Act “as-if” you are confident. Now just forget you are acting and soon you’ll develop it into a habit.
5) Go into the future and ask if what you’re faced with is such a big deal, looking back over your life. Be not afraid of making mistakes. See mistakes and failures as valuable lessons.
6) Take control of your inner voice and emotions. Silence the dangerous negative internal voice. Visualize a volume control and lower its volume.
7) Treat yourself with a make over. Cut your hair, dress neatly and look people on the eyes when you speaking to them.
If you have low self-esteem, make use of the power of your own positive thoughts and beliefs to change how you feel about yourself. This a decision YOU have to take.
These below questions will change your focus to what is really important, and the rest of your life will quickly fall into place.
Can success be measured in wealth? Think again...
Real success comes from the emotions that we experience each day, according the goals that matter to us the most. Go and sit down, write it out if you have to — and define what real success is to you. Real success is determined by who you become, the character you develop, what you do for others and, if you are true to God, your family, and yourself.
Here are five questions to ask yourself every evening. Do this exercise, and see what happens...
- Did i made that those I love feel loved?
- Have I avoided unkind words and deeds?
- Have I helped someone less fortunate or did i accomplish something worthwhile?
- Did i collect some wonderful memories?
- Am i grateful for the gift of being alive?
These questions will change your focus to what is really important, and the rest of your life will quickly fall into place.
Success is simple. Do what's right, the right way, at the right time. Arnold H. Glasow
You may have a clear knowledge of your values, and you may have an equally strong sense of competency - But, if you cannot bring those attributes into action, you will have reach nothing.
When we start to live our life to the fullest one of the best advancements we can have is plenty of personal energy. These energy is your capacity to do work. It provides the fuel that enables you to be ready to take on anything. Energy is the opposite of being drained down. You may have clear core values, and you may have an equally strong sense of competency - But, if you cannot bring those attributes into action, you will have reach nothing. With the adequate energy levels, you can think better and faster, you can be more focused and healthier, and it will enable you to function at your very best. Below I will discuss a few of the many things you can implement to boost your energy levels.
Sleeping - To little sleep definitely make you feel exhausted the next day. While you sleep, your body is restoring and repairing the day’s damage. It is also true that getting to much sleep will also slow you down. It appears that any significant deviation from normal sleep patterns can increase daytime fatigue. The best solution is to figure out how many hours of sleep are right for you and then stick with it. most healthy adults need between 7.5 to 9 hours of sleep per night to function at their best. Children and teens need even more.
Eating - a Healthy diet will raise your energy-level. Proper nutrition can do wonders to make you feel alert and powerful. The best foods we can eat is fresh, unprocessed food like nuts, salmon, yoghurt, fruit and vegetables to name a few.
The rhythm and the depth of your breath directly affects the state of your mind and the health of your body. Take a look at the The Tony Robbins Breathing Exercise:
If you are able to give yourself five to ten minutes each day to practice deep, ‘power breathing’ you will definitely reap the rewards. This is one of the best, most effective exercises you can do for free, every day. This breathing exercise consists of breathing in the following ratio: Breath in for 1 count; Hold for 4 counts; Breath out for 2 counts.As an example – if you were to breath in for 3 seconds, then you would hold your breath for 12 seconds and then breath out for 6 seconds.
If you are able to do this ten times, three times a day (morning, evening and before bed) you will notice a huge difference to your energy levels.
Aerobic Exercising - Feeling tired? A walk may be better than a rest for boosting your energy.
It may seem illogical but researchers say regular exercise may pay off with increased energy in the long run. Select exercise that fits best for your, something what you like to do. The most important thing however is, to develop exercising as a habit - exercise at least 3 times a week, better 4 times a week.
Mental Energy: Thoughts and Emotions - In every relationship there’s an exchange of energy and if emotional fights occure, it can be very enenergy draining. Same scenario for negative thoughts. Luckely we do have the power to choose our thoughts and emotions. As negative thinking can be our greatest energy drainer, choose the right thoughts and emotions by directing our mental focus on what is positive. To change your life you have to change tour thoughts.
You will gain tremendous clarity around your life and the decisions you make by understanding exactly which values are important to you .
You will gain tremendous clarity around your life and the decisions you make by understanding exactly which values are important to you, This way you have the perfect starting point for understanding yourself, your motivators and actions. You will be able to prioritise effectively in the way that leads you to a successful and happy life - by taking consistent correct decisions.
When your choices are driven by your values, you will live in alignment with your values, and you then will experience harmony in your life - a feeling that leads to satisfaction and happiness.
When you make choices which are not aligned to your values, you will experience disharmony which can lead to frustration, guilt, And general unhappiness.
The more clarity you have of your values the more rapidly you can identify why you are experiencing disharmony and realign yourself to feelings of happiness.
Personal values can be defined as Important and lasting beliefs about what is good or bad and desirable or undesirable. Thus Your values represent what is important to you, the are the driving force behind the choices you make and the behaviours you display every day.
Make use of the following quizz, helping you find your values and look into how to best utilize them for goal-setting and decision-making:
Personal Core Value Quiz
Select the Top 10 Personal Values. Rewrite them from most important to less important.
“Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth.”
What is holding you back from achieving your goals? We self are our greatest enemy. From the time we were kids we were programmed by things that people said to us and experiences that happen to us. this words people said and experiences we had are stored in our memory and our brain is making conclusions about what we think we can do and can to do. This results in a set of rules that become our life barrier and forms our identity.
This reality isn't a fixed thing, it is an image we have in our minds. An image that we can change for the better, achieving success and happiness in life.
You may not even be aware of such self-limiting beliefs, but certainly they are there inside. Here are an example of a few fixed false beliefs many people have -
If you suffer from one or more of these false beliefs, it’s time to make a change. If you can become aware of these false beliefs you will be able to change them. And by that, change your reality and quality of life. Take back control of your life now. Shatter these beliefs and take positive action today.
“It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else's life with perfection.” - Anomynous
To achieve success, you first need to change your beliefs and concepts and get rid of the negative. This process is called self- reflection, as discussed here. After you have gone through this self reflecting process on your life, it’s time to decide how satisfied you are in your life’s different areas and how balanced your life currently is.
Here are a couple of questions to ask yourself. Do you know what you are spending your energy and time on? How satisfied are you in life’s different areas? Why does your life looks the way it does? What would you like your life to look like? How can you make this happen?
Life has many different categories, you may add or subtract to the list according to your own circumstances but i would like to name a few of the mayor categories of life:
The "where am i now" Questionnaire. After completed the below list, you will have a representation of your satisfaction with life. You will quickly identify any gaps between where you are now and where you want to be.
Self-motivation is a key life accomplishment. This is the momentum that drives us to do things - the force that drives us to achieve our goals, to feel fulfilled and increase our overall quality of life.
What is Your Motive? Do you understand what motivates you to do things?
Sometimes your motivation is hidden from your consciousness – your own personal hidden agenda. Your motivation may well change from hour-to-hour, and through life - but the question you needs to answer is what keeps you motivated? If you can figure out "why" you want a specific result, it will be much easier to engage in self improvement and motivation will come more naturally.
Recommended E-book for further reading for INSTANT MOTIVATION: The surprising truth behind what really drives top performance (Kindle Edition) This book will change how you think about what drives you to succeed. Groundbreaking new research reveals how your state of mind holds the key to your motivation, success and happiness.
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