You spot an eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” 


But if you could read her mind, you would see clouds of thoughts and it might amaze you that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?... Why don’t guys find me attractive? ...I don’t like my ankles.”


We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wow, what else can he ask for?”  He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself “I hate my big ears…why have I so few friends.”
Some people never tires of talking. And in most conversations, it is only them who seems to be interested in the things they have to say. 


An important key to self improvement is to talk to a trusted friend. Find someone who you trust. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, do I bore you when we are together, do my breath smell?” and so on..


Your friend’s answers may surprise you and he or she will know that you are interested in improving yourself. In return you may help your friend with positive criticism. This is a win-win situation.

​Remember, you cannot give what you do not have. Be a product of self improvement first before you can tell other people how to improve themselves. 


The first step to true self improvement is to accepting yourself. Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer... if only I was thinner” and so on. 
Being yourself is observing you, finding out how to express yourself and be pleased with who you are. 


For a few individuals, it's finding out how to love yourself, for other people, it's not shrouding who you are or altering things about you to fit in. 


You can't be yourself if you don't understand, know, and live with yourself first. It ought to be your basic goal to discover this. Attempt to take time for yourself and chew over your life and selections. 


Work at accepting errors and selections you've arrived at; they're complete and in the past, so there's no use howling over spilled milk. Quit caring about how individuals perceive you. 


It truly doesn't matter. It's unimaginable to be yourself when you're caught up in questioning "Do they think I'm comical? Does she think I'm plump? Do they believe I'm unintelligent?" 


To be yourself, you've got to release these concerns and just let your conduct flow, with only your thoughtfulness of other people as a filter — not their consideration of you. 
        

Self-improvement and self love is the virtue of acceptance and contentment. Happiness will follow where self improvement has taken place.
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