​You will gain tremendous clarity around your life and the decisions you make by understanding exactly which values are important to you.

Personal values are a central part of who you are and who you want to be. By becoming more aware of these important factors in your life, and how to utilize them, they would guide you to make the best choice in any situation. Personal values can be defined as Important and lasting beliefs about what is good or bad and desirable or undesirable. Thus your values represent what is important to you, they are the driving force behind the choices you make and the behavior you display every day.
 
To understand your values as a fundamental building block of life, there are many important decisions about determining what you value most. Values have a major influence on a person's behavior and attitude and serve as broad guidelines in all situations. Your values directly affect your lifestyle and your social experiences. Your decisions, choices you make and your emotions are also directly affected by your values. You will gain tremendous clarity around your life and the decisions you make by understanding exactly which values are important to you, This way you have the perfect starting point for understanding yourself, your motivators and actions. You will be able to prioritize effectively in the way that leads you to a successful and happy life - by taking consistent correct decisions.
 
When your choices are driven by your values, you will live in alignment with your values, and you then will experience balance in your life – you will be satisfied and happy. When you make choices, which are not aligned with your values, you will experience conflicting feelings, which may lead to frustration, guilt, and unhappiness. The clearer your values are, the more rapidly you can identify why you are experiencing conflicting feelings and realign yourself to be happy and contend again.
 
# SuccessRevamp helping you find your values and look into how to best utilize them for goal-setting and decision-making.
 
Our values have a direct effect on the emotions that we experience each day which then affects the goals we have set to achieve in life.
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Previous Posts:
Part One
Part Two

Are you desperately looking for peace and harmony in your life -  to live a life that is deep and meaningful? Do you want to make a difference during the time you are on the earth? Do you want more love and less fear in your life?
 
All the above are possible, but only if you are prepared to forgive - yourself and those around you -  forgive without ceasing. Anyone who had to forgive someone who has hurt him or her will agree, it's probably one of the hardest things in the world to do.
 
Why is it so hard to forgive?
Forgiveness always starts first with yourself. Forgiveness has more to do with yourself than about the person you forgive. To be able to forgive others, you should be able to forgive yourself first. In other words, you can forgive someone else only to the same extent to which you can forgive yourself. So if you are struggling to forgive yourself, how can you forgive someone else anything?
 
Ask yourself the question - What can I not forgive myself? If you have the answer, you will know  who or what is keeping you captive in a prison of hatred and fear, where you are the one who can not let go of the past. Therefore, it is necessary to forgive yourself to free you from the destructive power of hatred, anger, and revenge.
 
If you understand the above, you will also understand that forgiveness is more to do with you than with another. And if you understand this, you can not do otherwise than to forgive yourself and others and be free!

Read Part Four..
 
 

a Few of the Self-Talk Secrets

Secret One:  - journal writing: Carry a pen and notepad around and write down all the negative comments as you think of them. Try to find patterns - What triggered these thoughts? Figure out what you said and why? Do this for five successive days, and then analyze what you've written down. Now, if you think precisely, is this driving force the energy you want behind everything you do? If you answered no to this question (most people will) then you have to do something about it.

Secret Two  - be sincere with yourself and write down a few sentences of how you feel about your body. Take a look at it and see where you could be more positive. What more favorable words could you rather use? Say, “STOP” out loud as soon as you notice yourself saying something negative in your mind. This will stop the enclosed circle of negative thinking you have developed.

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Secret Three - notice your natural tendencies: We all have areas of our lives where we react positive, and then there are other areas where we react negatively and destructive. Notice when you act destructively, make a note and try to also write down what do you think triggered your negative response? Do this for a couple of days; let's say five or so. Now you will know most of your trigger areas for negative self-dialogue.
 
Secret Four - you can only hold one thought at a time: Since your mind can hold only one thought at a time, either positive or negative, you must deliberately get in the habit of choosing the positive, you will see your actions transforming right before your eyes.
 
Secret Five - Start your day on a positive note. Stand in front of a mirror saying out loud to your self-words such as “I like myself,” and “I love transforming my body.” These positive affirmations will build your self-confidence and self-esteem. By doing this, these new positive thoughts will start to blossom from deep into your subconscious. Remember it takes time to reprogram your mind with these new positive affirmations, but it is worth it!
 
Secret Six - Failure is a part of life. Remember, it is impossible to become successful without failure and difficulties. You must rise above the failures and roadblocks in your life in order to become a happier and thinner person. Always, keep your thoughts on your goals. Consistently think about the person you are becoming.  View failure as an opportunity to stand up again and again, growing stronger, working towards reaching your goals.
 
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​Keep the following steps in mind when you set yourself goals, to make sure it is achievable. 
Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success.
- David Joseph Schwartz

#HappyWomen
​How to set S.M.A.R.T Goals:

- Specific: Be very clear on your goals. Do not let out any detail.
A specific goal has a much greater chance of being accomplished.
Who is involved?
What has to be accomplished?
Where should it take place?
When should it be finished?
Which requirements are needed?
Why should it be accomplished?

- Measurable: criteria to measure progress toward the achievement of each of the goals set. How much? How many? When it is accomplished?

- Attainable: When you identify your most important goals, you begin to figure out the road map how you can let them come true. That includes the skills and money to reach them. You could see previously overlooked opportunities, which can bring you closer to the achievement of your goals.

- Realistic: A goal must represent an end result towards which you are able to work. A goal can be both high and realistic; a high goal is frequently easier to reach as a low goal has low motivational force.

- Timely: A goal should be within a time frame. With no time frame, there’s no sense of urgency.

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It's clear that people who maintain focus on long-term goals can achieve much bigger things than those who jump from idea to idea, or those who give up at the first bump in the road...

​Now it is time to set your specific, long-term goals for the important areas of your life, such as career, family, finances, and so on. Then, look over these goals. How do they make you feel? If you do not feel excited about these goals, take these goals off the list, or revise them so that they move you towards something that really matters to you. Treat your goals like recipes. Remember to take it one step at a time. It is very important to break down a goal into smaller, measurable steps. Write down each step how you would like to work trough the goal to be sure you are clear about what to achieve and how to do it.
 
Good and healthy mental habits are the cornerstones of achieving personal success. Treating your set goals as very important, giving them attention every day, will soon be a healthy mental habit that becomes part of yourself, without thinking about it.
 
More on creating and organizing your goals, as well as how to stay motivated achieiving them #SuccessRevamp
 
Last but not least, don't Give Up! Remember that finding motivation isn't always easy, but it is always possible. Be Passionate about your goals, and commit to the end.

​By Michael Tawiah
​Fear is such a beautifully complex human mechanism which has a significant impact on our lives.
My aim is for us to understand fear to a point where  we can control how fear affects us and not the other way around.
This resource will dive deep down into helping us understand what fear is at the core, and guide us on what we can to overcome this powerful force.
Are you ready for this? This article is 2500 words long… we are going in.

What is FEAR?
Fear is a feeling we get when we are uncertain of what lies ahead. More specifically, it is a feeling we get when we are uncertain of the negative consequences that may lie ahead:

Who are these people?
Will they like me?
What if they don’t like me?
What if they think I’m weird?
How will my speech turn out?
What if I mess up?
What if everyone judges me?

The uncertainty of what lies ahead takes us out of our comfort zone, which often encourages us to back out and avoid the scenario in order to not risk facing that negative event from potentially occurring and affecting us.

Are you tired of being uncertain about yourself? Tired of shyness or negative thoughts that stops you from living your life to the fullest?

Many women underestimate how valuable and unique they are. In their quest in raising their families, looking after the children and their husband's needs, somewhere along that road, they give up on their dreams, desires, and things they really want. 

#HappyWomen - It is fair to live your own dreams while building a happy family with the man you loves. It is absolutely possible to chase your dream while having a family at the same time. Women are proving every day that they can be moms and entrepreneurs — all over the world. Do not let go of your dreams. Let your children remind you what it feels like to dream again... dreams that have no boundaries.
 
The biggest barriers are in our minds, it’s ourselves that’s holding us back. Going after the things we want out of life can be a scary thought -  especially when have an already full family life around us. Many times, we don’t even know at what point to begin, but with every step we take – we coming closer to our happiness as our confidence rises as we defeating the road blocks along the way.
 
Our dreams are important, but our children should come first in our lives. With an adequate time schedule and proper planning we can still be fantastic moms to our kids, have a great family life and raising our dreams, all at once!

So how do we make these things happen? Here are a few ideas you can make use of to raise a dream and children at the same time.

• Create a to-do list and a plan. Be organized. Put everything you have to do during the day on your list. Tick the blocks as you get trough them. No matter how tired you are, you have to prepare for  tomorrow. Also, include in your list your daily steps to reach your goals.
• Be diligent. You need to do something towards your dream every day, even if you are only resting so you can work harder the next day.
• Rising early. This way you will get the most time to work on any project or job. Life is going to happen so it’s important to put enough time in your schedule to work on your dream. Other moms may rather choose working late at night when the kids are sleeping. In any case, make sure you find quiet time.
• Never leave home without a notebook and pen (or your tablet with the notes app – works very well for me!). You never know when you will get a new idea or when you’ll have free time to work on your project.
• Brainstorm at home or when you drive. Helping with homework is a great time to get some of your project done.
• Take chances. Go big. Take risks. The only failure is not trying.
• Live in the moment and get creative. Enjoy life. Be inspired. Think outside the box. Do things differently. Be bold. Create something new.
• Success takes time and sometimes many years. Its is like a marathon you are running. It will have its ups and downs, just don’t give up.
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You really can have your dreams and at the same time have a family - For further reading: #HappyWomen
 
 

​In Part ONE we have discussed what Self-Love is. Now we moving on, to starting to know the real YOU.

One the most powerful ways to get to know yourself is through writing in a journal. Journaling has no rules - set a timer for ten minutes and start writing, and do not stop until the timer rings.
 
Know what makes you happy. Take some time to figure out what makes you happy and regularly add to your list.  -  write down anything that comes to your mind, that makes you smile, the small and the big, the cheap and the pricey stuff, as well as the priceless – like family outings and candles in the bathroom.
 
What is the one movie you will be watching over and over if you have to? (or the one book you will read many times?) The story that touches you the most can tell you a lot about yourself?  What is the theme of the story? See if you can find some of your positive qualities in the story or maybe some things that you are dreaming about  having. Write it in your journal.
 
Know what things you don't like. Write it down. Add to your list every day. At some point in your life, you might have a choice to stop doing some things you don’t like. Evaluate these situations and see if you have a choice to get yourself out or not. Some situations you can not just get out of, like going to school, paying your rent and so on.
 
Some Self-discovery questions
As you ask yourself these questions, your journey on self-inquiry will pick up speed. It may be a bit unfamiliar at first but will become easier as you get used to it. This list of questions will help you to realize what you think about yourself. There are no right or wrong answers.

• What have you done so far in your live that you are  proud of?
• How would you like other people to perceive you? How do you think they do perceive you?
• What is true for you no matter what?
• Do you want it less or more of something that he s for forbidden?
• In which area of your life do you feel out of control?

 
What matters the most.
Stop thinking that everyone is better than you; they are not. Remember no one is perfect. We are all different - think of the variety of sizes, shapes, and colors that people have. Learn to love who you are. Each of us has its own purpose in life. Find out what is yours. Discover your strengths and concentrate on to fulfill your calling. Remember you are a unique child of God. Think and always say good things about yourself - even if it does not go well. What we think and say is our reality. Be positive! See part three on forgiving yourself and how to forget about past mistakes...