How to improve self esteem: 5 ways to prevent becoming quickly offended

1) DETACH YOURSELF
Lots of people are quickly angered since they can not separate between their ideas and their personal emotions. Many then think that they, personally, have been turned down, instead of their idea or viewpoint. This, obviously  hurts - but is extremely incorrect.

2) PERMIT PEOPLE TO BEING HUMAN
If you anticipate others to behave and talk a certain way, most of the time you will become upset when they do not live up to those standards set by you. Rather, permit people to being human. They are, anyway.

3) LOVE THE HONEST TRUTH MORE THAN ALWAYS BEING RIGHT
If the honest truth, is much more valued than your personal viewpoint, then opposition to your thought or beliefs will be inoffensive regardless of how offending the other person is trying to be. Opposition to your perspective then provides no reason for offence. You just wish to know the truth.

​4) PLACE YOURSELF IN THE OTHER PERSON'S SHOES
If you can slide your feet into the other person's moccasins for a minute, you will be able to view points from the other person's point of view. You might also find that you too contributed to in the drama. And possibly you will also come to find that the offender had absolutely no such intentions of annoying you.
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4) RESERVE OF YOUR OPINION OR JUDGEMENT
Let your discussion reach its natural end before you leap to a verdict, or presume an ill intention, Stand up to that impulse and hold-up your judgment till the discussion has stopped. After all, you may discover there is no offence by the time you get to the end.



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Commitment means to be dedicated to a specific cause. To take full ownership for what you want to achieve. Without commitment, self-discipline towards goal achievement is not possible. Once you have committed yourself to something, you will do it without hesitation. But if you are not committed to the outcome, you will battle to keep going and achieve your goal. This is significant, as we need to examine our commitment towards a specific goal first—as self-discipline is not possible without having commitment first. When you feel discouraged, it is of uttermost importance to have the commitment to keep your motivation going. This is where commitment can make the difference between succeeding or not going anywhere.

#StartYourOwnBusness

​​To start a new business from scratch, are among the most stressful changes in a person's life - and is, thus, to be expected to have a huge impact on the rest of the family and the business owner must be prepared and take the necessary steps to deal with and cut the effect of the stress on the rest of the family members.

​Possible consequences of a new business in a family:

 #StartYourOwnBusiness ​Time is precious. It is important to know how to use your time well. The house, children, your business, and all the other duties need attention. The pressures of modern life can be very tiring. It is very common to come to the realization that there is not enough time in a day. Make sure that you make time to relax and nurture yourself.

How do you currently spend your time? Keep a time log for a week or so. Record everything you do. You'll be amazed to see how your time is spent and will see where you need to make changes.

​There are certain ways that a person can learn how to fit all your tasks into your day, making some time for yourself as well.

Start with simple things like dining with the family every night at the same time
 
Set up a work routine and stick to it. Only plan for 4-5hours of real work per day. We're always more focused and productive within a limited time. More work hours doesn't mean more productivity.
 
It is a must that time limits are set on working hours and that you adhere to it. Limit your normal working hours to office hours during weekdays. If you need to work on weekends, make sure that Sundays are free at least. Be free at least one day a week, to focus on yourself and the family, and to do things together and relax. Due to modern technology, it is quite common to receive e-mail and SMS messages from your business after hours. Again, it is important that there are definite time limits set after which no emails and texts messages should be answered.
 
Proper time management is sometimes difficult, but if the benefits are taken into account, it is worthwhile. Take the first 20-30 minutes of every day to plan the rest of your day. Do not start with anything else until you complete your time plan. The time you schedule to schedule time are of utter importance.
 

Make use of a "Do not disturb" sign when you absolutely have to get urgent work done. Do not answer the phone, ignore e-mails, and disconnect instant messaging. Schedule a time to answer emails, messages and return phone calls.
 
Do not multi-task. Focusing on one thing at a time will double your productivity, which can mean the difference between success and failure in a small business. Set a timer to force yourself to be limited to do one thing at a time. Focus on that one task until it’s done.
 
To make the best use of your time in your business, your day should consist of a series of goals that have specific milestones. Break larger goals into smaller steps, for more effective accomplishment. Set some goals to be completed before lunch and some for after lunch.
 
Start Early. To increase productivity, have an early start to your day. The more time you take to think and plan, the better organized you will be. Also get into the habit of going to bed at a reasonable time to be able to rise early.

For further reading - How to start Your Own Business

WHAT inspires a chef to create a new recipe?
What drives an explorer to explore distant places?
What makes a child ask so many questions?
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Be open for questioning. Responsible curiosity makes you smarter.

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​What about you? Do you have new ideas or are you looking for answers to intriguing questions? Curiosity can lead to many wonderful things and urges us to broaden our knowledge to penetrate to the core of things. Most of us will not become famous explorers or inventors, but f you make good use of this wonderful gift from God, you will lead a meaningful and joyous life.

Here are three ideas towards living a more curious life:
​(Please comment below if you can add to the list!)
- Try to be responsible curious rather than judgmental or criticizing when new situations arise.
- Learn from, and admit your mistakes. Only then, good judgment will develop.
- Stop making assumptions about situations. Assumptions obstruct your view and will defeat you before you even begin.

Curiosity can be dangerous if not lived by the word of God. Curiosity for sin will lead to compromising or even in going astray such as the Prodigal Son. The young man asks his father for his inheritance, and went off to see what is in the outside world....he was soon broke with no one to help him. Curiosity led him to make poor life decisions.
 
Just be careful, keep this in mind while be responsible curious.

Further reading #LoveYourself

​WHAT inspires a chef to create a new recipe? What drives an explorer to explore distant places? What makes a child ask so many questions?

​What about you? Do you have new ideas or are you looking for answers to intriguing questions? Curiosity can lead to many wonderful things and urges us to broaden our knowledge to penetrate to the core of things. Most of us will not become famous explorers or inventors, but f you make good use of this wonderful gift from God, you will lead a meaningful and joyous life.
 
Do you know the difference between an extraordinary life and an average life?
When you live a curious life, you do not live a life that is irresponsible, but you provoke originality in your everyday live. You will think more insightfully and live a life less ordinary. Your mind will be open to suggestions, different options, as well as new ways of viewing a situation.

Do you know the difference between an extraordinary life and an average life?
When you live a curious life, you do not live a life that is irresponsible, but you provoke originality in your everyday live. You will think more insightfully and live a life less ordinary. Your mind will be open to suggestions, different options, as well as new ways of viewing a situation.
 
Three steps towards a more curious life:
Try to be responsible curious rather than judgmental or criticizing when new situations arise.
Learn from, and admit your mistakes. Only then, good judgment will develop.
Stop making assumptions about situations. Assumptions obstruct your view and will defeat you before you even begin.

Curiosity can be dangerous if not lived by the word of God. Curiosity for sin will lead to compromising or even in going astray such as the Prodigal Son. The young man asks his father for his inheritance, and went off to see what is in the outside world....he was soon broke with no one to help him. Curiosity led him to make poor life decisions.
 
Just be careful, keep this in mind while be responsible curious.

​Further Reading #RoaringCourage 

​ What do you use most of your energy on? Where are you in your life and where do you to be? Through reflection, you will identify your biggest gaps between where you are now and where you would like to be, and you will be guided to take action and improve in those areas.

​What is self-reflection?
Self-reflection is when you do honest self-observation or inspection, and you are willing to learn more about your own underlying nature, your purpose or essence here on earth. Self-reflection is important because it allows you to learn from your mistakes and past situations, to assist you in advancing your future.

​You will gain tremendous clarity around your life and the decisions you make by understanding exactly which values are important to you.

Personal values are a central part of who you are and who you want to be. By becoming more aware of these important factors in your life, and how to utilize them, they would guide you to make the best choice in any situation. Personal values can be defined as Important and lasting beliefs about what is good or bad and desirable or undesirable. Thus your values represent what is important to you, they are the driving force behind the choices you make and the behavior you display every day.
 
To understand your values as a fundamental building block of life, there are many important decisions about determining what you value most. Values have a major influence on a person's behavior and attitude and serve as broad guidelines in all situations. Your values directly affect your lifestyle and your social experiences. Your decisions, choices you make and your emotions are also directly affected by your values. You will gain tremendous clarity around your life and the decisions you make by understanding exactly which values are important to you, This way you have the perfect starting point for understanding yourself, your motivators and actions. You will be able to prioritize effectively in the way that leads you to a successful and happy life - by taking consistent correct decisions.
 
When your choices are driven by your values, you will live in alignment with your values, and you then will experience balance in your life – you will be satisfied and happy. When you make choices, which are not aligned with your values, you will experience conflicting feelings, which may lead to frustration, guilt, and unhappiness. The clearer your values are, the more rapidly you can identify why you are experiencing conflicting feelings and realign yourself to be happy and contend again.
 
# SuccessRevamp helping you find your values and look into how to best utilize them for goal-setting and decision-making.
 
Our values have a direct effect on the emotions that we experience each day which then affects the goals we have set to achieve in life.
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​Keep the following steps in mind when you set yourself goals, to make sure it is achievable. 
Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success.
- David Joseph Schwartz

#HappyWomen
​How to set S.M.A.R.T Goals:

- Specific: Be very clear on your goals. Do not let out any detail.
A specific goal has a much greater chance of being accomplished.
Who is involved?
What has to be accomplished?
Where should it take place?
When should it be finished?
Which requirements are needed?
Why should it be accomplished?

- Measurable: criteria to measure progress toward the achievement of each of the goals set. How much? How many? When it is accomplished?

- Attainable: When you identify your most important goals, you begin to figure out the road map how you can let them come true. That includes the skills and money to reach them. You could see previously overlooked opportunities, which can bring you closer to the achievement of your goals.

- Realistic: A goal must represent an end result towards which you are able to work. A goal can be both high and realistic; a high goal is frequently easier to reach as a low goal has low motivational force.

- Timely: A goal should be within a time frame. With no time frame, there’s no sense of urgency.